The Musical Education of Ben

There are only so many times you can listen to "Seventy Six Trombones" without going mad. The same goes for "Ya Got Trouble", "Wells Fargo Wagon", "Goodnight My Someone" -- any song from The Music Man, really -- "Do Re Mi", and a host of tunes from Sesame Street and other assorted variations on The Alphabet Song. These are Ben's musical touchstones. I doubt anyone outside of Meredith Wilson's heirs has such an abiding interest in Prof. Harold Hill's River City Boys' Band scheme. If Ben spies you at the computer, he will insist you navigate to YouTube. Then he will proceed to make your ears bleed as he makes you watch his favorites again and again until he falls asleep or the power goes out. Every day, several times a day, I deal with it.

"I want to hear 'Seventy Six Trombones', Daddy."
"Daddy, sing 'I Like Trouble'."
"Play it again! NOW!"

The boy has a talent for killing songs, one rivaled only by my college roommate, minister at my wedding, and generally good guy, Howard. But Ben hasn't had nearly as much practice at it, which makes it all the more impressive.

So, in an effort to broaden his musical palate, steer it in a direction more in line with my own tastes and thus save my sanity, I've been judiciously introducing some pop and rock into his YouTube diet. Nothing too aggressive at this point -- I don't need him, in his best Axl Rose impression, bellowing, "You know where you are? You're in the jungle, baby! You're gonna diiie!" at teachers and grandparents just yet. Anyway, there have been several successes and a few failures. Here's how it's going:

Successes

"Army", by Ben Folds Five


I'm an unabashed fan of Ben Folds. My hope was that it would be relatively easy to get Ben to feel the same -- Folds' piano-based tunes are very melody-forward, allowing Ben to focus on the songs easily enough, and contain plenty of verbal hooks for him to latch onto. Plus, with eight albums, 3 EPs and bunches of B-sides, live tracks and side projects, his catalog is large enough to keep Ben happily caught up in the music without resorting to annoying levels of repetition (even after weeding out the high percentage of crude and profane songs that populate the catalog). I just needed a gateway.

"Army" is that gateway. It's the perfect pop song, with a catchy melody and bright, bouncy energy to it. The video is theatrical, involves several set changes, isn't edited in a way that will induce epileptic seizures, gives Ben plenty of instruments to name, and, as he never fails to point out, has balloons at the end. It's become a favorite, one that Ben will request by name and sing to himself. It also helps that the video uses the edited version of the song, in which the opening profanity has been removed. The album version that gets played in the car or on the home stereo most decidedly does not say, "Dad said, 'Son, you must be high.'" Emily and I have gotten in the habit of yelling, "Ben, it's the ARMY SONG!!!" over the second line, which has become noticeable enough that Ben often does the same thing. Going forward, this could be problematic; still, it's a small price to pay.

"Lullabye", by Ben Folds Five


With "Army" going over so well, it was time to introduce another Ben Folds song. "Lullabye" is what its title suggests it is, and along with U2's "MLK" was one that I had hoped to use as a nighttime wind-down for him. Plus, I wanted him to learn the lyrics so we'd have perplexed teachers from his daycare asking why he kept talking about James Earl Jones. (I'm still working on that last part.)

This particular version is from a Ben Folds performance with the Western Australia Symphony Orchestra in Perth. While Ben seems to like the song, what has really grabbed his attention is the presence of a saxophone. He refers to "Lullabye" as "Saxophone Song", and gets impatient for the appearance and reappearance of said instrument. Actually, the whole performance with WASO has been a big hit with Ben. He loves identifying all of the instruments -- I see chimes! I see violins! I see bass! I see tenor Stuart Haycock! -- and I'm slowly figuring out what songs go with the names he makes up for them (he was near tears as I stumbled my way to figuring out that "Violin Song" meant "Narcolepsy").

Now, he'll often ask to hear Ben Folds, and it doesn't matter what song I play for him. He has his favorites, of course: Army and Lullabye, as mentioned, and Eddie Walker. But he's content with whatever I happen to play, and I now keep an 18-song mix cd in the car and a longer "Ben's Ben Folds Playlist" on the iPod.

"Buddy Holly", by Weezer


This is one of Ben's long-time favorites; it's been a part of his iPod playlist for at least half a year, so his interest in the song predates his interest in the video. The cd it's from is also the only album he's ever shown any interest in. By that, I mean he likes the actual physical cd, not the music. The album cover simply shows the band standing against a blue background; he likes saying "Hi" to it as well as playing peek-a-boo ("Where Weezer go? There it is!"). He has also had to apologize to Weezer for intentionally stepping on them and cracking the jewel case.

I'm not sure how or why we introduced "Buddy Holly" to Ben, or if it was even a conscious effort. However it came about, once he heard it, he immediately latched on to the "woo-hoo"s in the chorus. For a long time, it was simply "The Woo Hoo Song", though he has recently started referring to it by its proper name. In any case, he's been singing this one for a while now, as Emily previously documented. I've been teaching him the names of the various "Happy Days" characters in the video; we're still working on saying, "Aaay!"

"We're Going To Be Friends" and "Hotel Yorba", by The White Stripes





I really didn't expect Ben to like these videos. The songs had a fighting chance; I figured they'd go over well via iPod. But the videos are pretty sparse, especially for "We're Going To Be Friends." I thought the lack of activity would bore him and that he'd quickly ask to move on. I was wrong. He frequently requests "The Friend Song" and never fails to point to Meg White and say,"She's sleeping!" "Hotel Yorba" has been renamed "The Counting Song", thanks to the "1-2-3-4, take the elevator at the Hotel Yorba, I'll be glad to see you later..." part of the chorus. Thankfully, he hasn't started jumping on beds as a result of the video, but he seems to like the fact that Meg uses a cardboard box as a drum, and will drum along on the edge of the desk. To this point, I'm sticking with the more jangly White Stripes tracks; Ben's not a fan of the distortion-drenched wall of sound that makes up a good portion of the catalog.

"Stand", by R.E.M.

(R.E.M., their label, or both have decided that they don't want to allow video embedding. So you'll have to view it here.)

There are far better R.E.M. songs, and outside of "Losing My Religion" and "Everybody Hurts", none of them were as overplayed as this one. But most of those songs aren't as catchy as "Stand", and I needed something catchy if I was going to get Ben to eventually accept fifteen albums-worth of R.E.M. (I made the executive decision to rule out "Shiny Happy People", out of fear that he would like it too much and I would be forced to jam Q-Tips in my ears.) It helped that the video seemed like something that would be up his alley -- spastic dancing, jumping band members, and a bunch of random images that could serve as an "I Spy" game ("I see a bicycle! I see a chicken, Daddy!").

I was right. Ben's been requesting Stand with greater frequency, which means I need to figure out the rest of my R.E.M. strategy.

"I'm A Boy", by The Who


There's not a whole lot to this clip, really. The song is fun and goofy in a way that wasn't unusual for The Who's early recordings, and I could certainly imagine Ben stomping around the house yelling, "I'm a boy! I'm a boy! I'm a boy!" But those are arguments for the song, not the YouTube clip. No, the only reason I show him the video is in the hope that he will add some trademark Pete Townshend windmills to his "guitar playing". I make sure to point them out every time we watch it. And while Ben hasn't added that move to his repertoire yet, he does seem to like the song. So there's hope.

Failures

"Here Comes Your Man", by Pixies


Of course, Ben wasn't going to like everything I exposed him to. While "Here Comes Your Man" isn't especially representative -- it's much further down the pop spectrum than the Pixies' norm -- they influenced so many other bands that I figured it was worth seeing if I could get him interested, and then branch out from there. Besides, it's such a bright, straight forward little surf tune that I thought Ben would enjoy bouncing along to it. Perhaps if I had introduced him to the song rather than the video, that might have been the case. However, it only took one viewing to send him screaming from the room. I can sorta see why -- the distorted heads, dead-eyed stares, and intentional lack of lip-syncing are kinda disturbing.

"Short Skirt/Long Jacket", by Cake


I'm not especially surprised that Ben didn't like this one. I had hoped the song would win out, but knew the "Man on the Street Interview" style, with it's lack of anything going on and constant song interruptions would probably turn him off. He tuned out after 30 seconds.

"Smoothie Song", by Nickel Creek


I'm still not sure why Ben hasn't taken to Nickel Creek or this video specifically. There are so many elements to the "Smoothie Song" video that he loves: a ceiling fan, a fiddle, a roomful of guitars, and couple other instruments to boot. The only explanation I can come up with for his rejection is that he isn't interested in instrumentals, though his sporadic interest in Count Basie seems to counter that. Maybe it's just Chris Thile's lurching style of mandolin playing that he doesn't like. In any case, I'm not giving up on Nickel Creek that easily.

"Safety Dance", by Men Without Hats


Listed here not because I failed to get Ben interested, but because Emily would kill me if I tried.

Under the weather

Ben was pretty congested last night and today he's not feeling very well. His temperature isn't much above normal but his poor nose has been running all day long and he's really practicing his heavy mouth-breathing technique. He spent most of the day curled up with me or on the other couch with a glazed look in his eyes. We watched some TV, read some Dr. Seuss stories and he played with his toys a little, but his frustration tolerance and energy are low. His nap seemed to help a little. I think another kid in his daycare class was ill earlier in the week so I'm guessing he picked that up. Hopefully it will pass quickly.

Dave has been in California since Tuesday on a business trip but is on his way back from the KC airport right now. We got to have a video chat with him on Wednesday and Ben seems to understand that Daddy went on an airplane for work. We are both looking forward to having him back home tonight!

Creative little guy

Ben has been creative lately, doing more pretend play, enjoying art & music, getting interested in helping in the kitchen, and talking up a storm. In the last 3 weeks or so, he's been using a lot more sentences instead of short phrases and getting better at describing things. We had parent-teacher conferences at daycare Wednesday and his teacher said he continues to be further ahead on his verbal skills than his motor skills, which is consistent with how his development has been previously. Overall, he's doing well and especially loves storytime, playing in the kitchen area, and art/music activities.

A few things we've been up to:

Playing the guitar with Mommy. He also loves the baritone ukulele that Dave's mom had found at a rummage sale for $1(!) & given me a few years back. I finally got new strings for it and after a few adjustments, it seems to be playing great. It's a really nice size for him. Other than a fascination with the tuning pegs, he does a pretty good job with playing them gently.

Playing drums with Daddy:

Playing peekaboo with a Cheerios double-sized box. You would not believe the wailing when we wouldn't let him take the box to his room one night! I think he would've wanted to play peekaboo all night long if we'd let him bring it.

My parents visited a few weeks ago and Ben was fascinated by Papa's touch screen phone and the photos on it. When he saw this photo on the monitor, he got excited and said, "I helping Papa!"

My guitar needed to be repaired and my regular guy didn't have time for it, so he sent me to Mass Street Music in Lawrence, KS. It was a blustery day but we enjoyed some brief window shopping downtown with my parents. Ben was thrilled to see the giant inflatable Jayhawk (the University of Kansas' mascot), as he has loved pointing out the "birdie" in the local college logos decorating our grocery store.

Grammie & Ben playing with Mr. Potato Heads:

Having fun painting:

Today we got really ambitious and decided to use some of the beautiful blueberries Dave got at Sam's Club last week for blueberry muffins. Ben has so desperately wanted to help with cooking (and everything else) lately that I pulled up the stepstool and had him help with the measuring and stirring. While I was measuring the wet ingredients, he figured out how to open the pinch-top plastic flour container and was scooping the flour into an extra bowl. He had such a good time with it that I let him continue playing after the muffins were in the oven...at least until "I pretend eating muffin, Mommy" turned into actually eating some raw dough twice after being warned about it.

The final product. Alton Brown's instructions have you flip the muffins out upside down onto a towel so the bottoms can set, but he must do it a little smoother than I was able. Some got kind of smushed. But they were pretty tasty and Ben was so proud.

Showing off the muffin:

We put Ben to bed and I went in the next room to write this post. He was quiet for a little while, but about a half-hour later, he suddenly started singing to himself. He just finished a long rendition of "Where is Thumbkin?" and is now singing "Picking Up a Baby Bumblebee." Now we've moved on to "Wheels on the Bus." ...and now I think he's finally fallen asleep, 45 minutes after we put him to bed. Pretty typical.